Over the years, I have been confronted with a constant question from the children's mothers, 'What activity should I do at home?' Having a child do something is born out of a desire to keep him active. Also, many parents have a strong desire to teach their children from an early age. The reason? They worry that the bored child will turn his attention to the wrong things. However, this concern is reasonable; But to be honest, the desire to keep a child busy is born out of the Victorian mentality - from the time of the Industrial Revolution, when even adult children were seen as just a means to an end. Being indifferent became a vice.
To teach the child constantly. The roots of this ideology are also in the view that the child is an empty slate or an empty jar to be filled! Even at school the child is given very little free time i.e. breaks; On the contrary, the sole purpose of the whole system is to keep it constantly busy. If a child is lost in a dream in class, he is knocked down and the teacher strictly instructs him to pay attention. But did anyone think that maybe that child was also lost in a very useful daydream?
History is full of examples of interesting, useful and important scientific discoveries that took place when the scientist himself was either lost in a dream or in a very relaxed mood.
Everyone will surely remember the story of Archimedes who discovered the force of an object in volume and water in a bathtub. It is said that Newton was resting under a tree when an apple fell on him and he suddenly came to know about the law of gravity. The molecular structure of benzene, which went on to bring much-needed advances in organic chemistry, was initially dreamed of in the caculus. The famous Thomas Edison spent time primarily in a state between sleep and wakefulness and most of his inventions and his patents are the result of these moments. The popular Einstein also used this same technique to gain insight into the big problem and the most important example is the mathematician Ramanujan, who discovered the complex equations of mathematics in his dream!
So you have to know for sure what all this has to do with your child? So listen ... its free time is very valuable for children as well as adults. The summer holidays are a time that children look forward to all year long. This is the time when people go for walks, to meet relatives and friends; This time for the kids was just to relax and play. But the epidemic has changed that. Now most parents are looking for online courses and hobbies that can keep their child busy. We should always encourage a certain child to learn a new hobby and a new skill; But at the same time, it is more important that we give the child time and leisure to get lost in the daydream.
By daydreaming I mean just relaxing and letting go of your mind so that it can come back on its own. This is the time when the analytical brain i.e. the left side brain pauses for a while then the right side brain which is creative and imaginative becomes active and then we get deep insights and this break gives new ideas. Is also welcome.
The time to experience is also very limited and we are living in a time in human history where the speed of all things has been increased such as fast transport, fast food, instant information, instant messaging and instant fun. Now there is a special need to slow down.
Parents often feel that the child is getting bored so they fill him with activities all day long. Mothers are constantly on the lookout for different types of courses. My only advice to such parents is, 'Let them be bored!' Let the children find activities that appeal to them. A little bored so they will automatically try brainstorming and doing some research, so that their time passes. The difference between the two is this. As a parent you are not deciding what the child should do but the child is automatically trying to figure out what he wants to do. In a bid to keep the child busy, you are inadvertently depriving the child of the golden opportunity to spend time with himself and discover the tools.
The child is not an empty jar to fill. It is a garden plant. Does the gardener compare different plants? Or does one push the plant to grow faster? The gardener simply waters it and creates a favorable environment for it to grow. Then the gardener waits patiently. In the same way children are also absorbing a lot from this busy world. In fact, they have become hyper-stimulated and over-stimulated due to the innovative technology of today's age. As children absorb more and more content, they become victims of information technology. But most of this content is in fact the cause of 'discontent'! That is why they are becoming disillusioned with their internal resources shaped by external factors.
They need time to assimilate and get out. To assimilate, make sure that the children have interesting books on history, mythology, science and biographies of dignitaries. Give them a chance to detoxify, to play, to walk in nature, to paint and gardening and most importantly to let your child make the most of this summer time to reconnect, to slow down, to curiosity and to daydream.
So tell me, will you do this small but very effective experiment?
All the best!
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